Sons of the Shepherd

When the Ache Is More Than Loneliness: Understanding Widow(er)’s Fire       Warning, this blog post  will be incredibly sensitive, personal, and maybe even a little taboo. It’s got a strong PG-13 vibe to it. There are a lot of misconceptions about grief and there are a lot of things that you never think about until the nuclear bomb of loss strikes your soul. Grief is not only emotional and spiritual, it is physical.        There is a reality many widows and widowers experience but rarely talk about in church settings. The reason why is because it is a subject that’s shunned even as a good thing. What is this subject that makes most Christ followers cringe when they hear it in church? Intimacy , sex. Yes, I typed it and don’t regret it. Intimacy, when done right, is beautiful . It’s obedience to God and I honestly believe is a form of worship to Him. But what about the sudden, intense longing for intimacy after the loss of a spouse. Some call ...

Not Meant to Be Alone       There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes with grief.  The grief of losing a spouse is considered to be the worst human experience that a person can endure.  The scale of trauma and emotional ache is considered a 100 out of 100.  It is especially difficult for a younger person.  Losing someone when you are young steals your identity.  It is the worst identity theft that can be committed against you.  It exposes parts of you, it robs you of purpose.  It steals affection and human touch.  It is almost as if someone sets fire to your dreams and you are left with nothing to do but to watch it go up in smoke.  I cannot express to you the agony that my mind, body, heart, and soul have felt.  Grief doesn't just touch one area of your life, in invades each corner, leaving no area untouched.       If I were to pick the worst part of my grief journey thus far, it would be the ind...